Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Meryl Streep - "I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience."



“I no longer have patience for certain things, not because I’ve become arrogant, but simply because I reached a point in my life where I do not want to waste more time with what displeases me or hurts me. I have no patience for cynicism, excessive criticism and demands of any nature. I lost the will to please those who do not like me, to love those who do not love me and to smile at those who do not want to smile at me. I no longer spend a single minute on those who lie or want to manipulate. I decided not to coexist anymore with pretense, hypocrisy, dishonesty and cheap praise. I do not tolerate selective erudition nor academic arrogance. I do not adjust either to popular gossiping. I hate conflict and comparisons. I believe in a world of opposites and that’s why I avoid people with rigid and inflexible personalities. In friendship I dislike the lack of loyalty and betrayal. I do not get along with those who do not know how to give a compliment or a word of encouragement. Exaggerations bore me and I have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. And on top of everything I have no patience for anyone who does not deserve my patience.” _ Meryl Streep

So lately, this picture and long quote of Meryl Streep has been shared on FB in an increasingly popular way. Strucked a chord in me. I totally can relate and I understand where she's coming from. The phrase "I no longer..." means......she's tired. I believed she must have given alot of allowances and patience to accommodate those whom she cant get along well or see eye to eye to for decades, where it comes a point that she can no longer endure, no longer care and dont need to care. Time is so precious and she aint young anymore. There's an idiom which says "There's a limit to how much you can take or endure".

I realized I'm in line with all of her beliefs EXCEPT that I dont have difficulty accepting those who do not like animals. You know, so long so you do not mistreat them. Lol. Sometimes you really wish you can say out how you feel and let like-minded individuals come to you and click together, and vice versa, if we're not on the same page, just leave us alone. But if only things can be that simple. Some people loves to act. Especially infront of people.



This is one quote which I love too.





Sometimes in life, I wish life can be simple, man can be simple. Can we all be direct and straight-forward about it so that I dont have to guess, nor to guess the motive behind your words and actions.

I mean it's totally cool and awesome that you can be yourself, but that wouldnt be easy. Not everyone can act like "The devil who wears Prada". There're far too many repercussions which can result from being myself, being true to what I believe. I'm not that rigid though because while my beliefs can be very staunch, my heart is so so soft. Thus I always get taken advantage of, which my hubby always scolded me silly for it. I tend to find excuses for people and give myself the benefit of the doubt. Of course, once a "quota" for someone has finished, I "striked" them off my list. Just recently, I deleted a number of friends from my FB, whom I once considered very dear to me. But just trust me, I felt so....clean and FREE after they're out from my list because I just dont like people who are PRETENDING to my friends ACTING like my friends in my FB where all they want is to know what's going in my life so that they can gossip and bitch in whatever way they want behind my back. And getting sour over it.

Few days ago, I was chatting with a close friend of mine and she said things like, she cant be close to a mutual friend of ours because that friend has acted against a very particular TABOO of hers, which is being rude to the service line people . That is something which she cant accept from her friends. Lol kinda funny to me, of course it's NOT a merit but still it's kinda bizarre. So no matter how great you are a friend, so long so you're rude to the service line people, you cant be her good friend. Lol. Different people have different taboos. =) I'll talk about mine.


Ohhhh let me just fantasize for a moment that I can be like Meryl Streep, this is one quote from me. Which might be kinda similar to hers.


"I no longer have the grace to act like friends are friends when I know I'm not one all this while. I'm sick of feigning innocence and ignorance to all the pretenses, hypocrisy and lies and tired of living by "the benefit of the doubt". My silence doesnt mean my approval. I dont like complications and conflicts and have little patience for extremely self-centered people. I see people who give sarcasm-veiled compliments in low light. If you're not sincere, give none at all. I'm disgusted by females who play mind games and manipulation just to get themselves into favor. I thoroughly despise girls who loves to show that they're irresistible by deliberately attracting attached or married people, even partners of their friends. I'm not impressed by all the exaggerated conquests nor crowned successes when they're gotten through despicable means and underhand methods. I believe things will have a day of seeing light and things will fall into place, it only takes time. I get disgusted with people who say 1 thing and do another. And dont give promises which you cant keep, again and again. I positively loathe people who dont admit their faults and still insists they are right with no repentance. I cant get along with people with rigid, unappreciative, green-eyed monsters and people who loves to criticize people's looks. You're still ugly to me if you always have nothing good to say. I'm sick with playing mummy and maid to people who are born like princesses and still think they are. I grow excessively bored with people who come crying to me after they forgive their cheating partners again and again. I believe in a world of differences and enjoy intelligent debates without people getting personal about it. That's why I avoid overly sensitive people, illogical people and people with constant negative thoughts. I cant stand people who calculate every cent when dividing bills and whose ultimate aim in life is to get free lunches and gifts without working hard for it. I abhor people who act poor and pitiful just so they can get away with paying less, doing less and contributing less. I remember anyone who help me in any way. However, if I dont treat you as nice as you thought I should be, it's definitely because you dont deserve it...that much, or anymore." 


Woooahhh! Shiok!! Try coming out with a quote yourself too!
As I'm thinking, the list seems to get longer and longer. Lol.

Do self-reflections
Handle your expectations of different people
Do not harbor jealousy or evil thoughts